How Emotionally Healthy Are You?
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How Emotionally Healthy Are You?

One of assessing how emotionally damaged we might be is to identify a range of markers of emotional health and
imagine how we fare in relation to them. At least four central themes suggest themselves.
Firstly Self-Love. Self-love is the quality that determines how much we can be friends with ourselves
and, day to day, remain on our own side. When we meet a stranger who has things we don’t,
how quickly do we feel ourselves pitiful – and how long can we remain assured by the decency
of what we have and are? When another person frustrates or humiliates us, can we let the
insult go, able to perceive the senseless malice beneath the attack – or are we left
brooding and devastated, implicitly identifying with the verdict of our enemies? How much
can the disapproval or neglect of public opinion be offset by the memory of the steady attention
of few significant people in the past? In relationships, do we have enough self-love
to leave an abusive union? Or are we so down on ourselves that we carry an implicit belief
that harm is all we deserve? In a different vein, how good are we at apologising to a
lover for things that may be our fault? How rigidly self-righteous do we need to be? Can
we dare to admit mistakes or does an admission of guilt or error bring us too close to our
background sense of nullity? In the bedroom, how clean and natural or alternatively disgusting
and sinful do our desires feel? Might they be a little odd, but not for that matter bad
or dark, since they emanate from within us and we are not wretches? At work, do we have
a reasonable, well-grounded sense of our worth – and so feel able to ask for (and properly
expect to get) the rewards we are due? Can we resist the need to please others indiscriminately?
Are we sufficiently aware of our genuine contribution to say no? Candour Candour determines the
extent to which difficult ideas and troubling facts can be consciously admitted into the
mind, soberly explored and accepted without denial. How much can we admit to ourselves
about who we are – even if, or especially when, the matter is not especially pleasant?
How much do we need to insist on our own normality and wholehearted sanity? Can we explore our
own minds – and look into their darker and more troubled corners without flinching overly?
Can we admit to folly, envy, sadness and confusion? Around others, how ready are we to learn?
Do we need always take a criticism of one part of us as an attack on everything about
us? How ready are we to listen when valuable lessons come in painful guises? Communication
Can we patiently and reasonably put our disappointments into words that, more or less, enable others
to see our point? Or do we internalise pain, act it out symbolically or discharge it with
counterproductive rage? When other people upset us, do we feel we have the right to
communicate or must we slam doors and retreat into sulks? When the desired response isn’t
forthcoming, do we ask others to guess what we have been too angrily panicked to spell
out? Or can we have a plausible second go and take seriously the thought that others
are not merely being nasty in misunderstanding us? Do we have the inner resources to teach
rather than insist? Trust How risky is the world? How readily might we survive a challenge
in the form of a speech, a romantic rejection, a bout of financial trouble, a journey to
another country or a common cold? How close are we, at any time, to catastrophe? What
material are we made of? Will new acquaintances like or wound us? If we are a touch assertive,
will they take it or collapse? Will unfamiliar situations end in a debacle? Around love,
how tightly do we need to cling? If they are distant for a while, will they return? How
controlling do we need to be? Can we approach an interesting-looking stranger? Or move on
from an unsatisfying one? Do we, overall, feel the world to be wide, safe, and reasonable
enough for us to have a legitimate shot at a measure of contentment – or must we settle,
resentfully, for inauthenticity and misunderstanding? It isn’t our fault or, in a sense, anyone
else’s that many of these questions are so hard to answer in the affirmative. But,
by entertaining them, we are at least starting to know what kind of shape our psycological wounds have and so what kind of bandages might be most necessary. If you liked this film, please subscribe to our channel and click the bell icon to turn on notifications. If you want to learn more about Self-Knowledge follow the link on your screen now to see our range of books, games and gifts all about Self-Knowledge.

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  2. I harbor much resentments toward my older cruel sadistic feminist sisters who singled me out as a boy for particular "attention" when I was growing up and it really had a profound impact on my ability to trust females in the future based on this question…If you can't trust your own sisters..then who can you trust ?? The answer comes up…Pretty much NONE OF THEM. If I could go back to then…I told my mom that I would have hung such a severe beating on those two that they would have been afraid to so much look me in the eye ever again for fear of another one. I don't advocate violence a whole lot but It sure would have gotten them off my back. My mom said…"just because they're your sisters doesn't mean you have to love them". She's right.

  3. i felt bad for that animated guy near the end of 1. who walks into the office with treats only to get yelled at. good on him for delivering the middle finger and leaving. still sucks though.

  4. How emotionally healthy I am in a situation where in an insult or public attack and humiliation? We have different coping skills and psychological wounds is not easy to heal. You express in able to understand and self love and respect is the best way to deal. We all have some self righteous rigidity because of our up bringing, environment and education. How you react in a given situation does not determine who you are as a person. Emotions come and go. The permanent solution is to let it go. Let it be and sometimes ignoring an offense is the best way to deal with your situation. How emotionally healthy can you handle if you are in a situation where in public attack and humiliation, the best way to deal is to let go of an offense! Ignore! and let it be. Everything shall passed and channel your energy into something more positive and productive.

  5. Man my head is so screwed right now that I couldn’t even pay attention to a single sentence in the video…idk what to do.

  6. Nobody will be able to be in touch with normal and good persons, sadistic and violence and war can't be normal and isn't but will be the terror to the this planet, nobody will survive this war and injustice, sadism and cruelty and this planet should get bombed, for this criminels, brutals outside are a terror, which torturers of animals will like, but no normal person.

  7. I’m truly sorry, but with those animations I could not get myself to focus on the content because all I saw was Kafka’s Metamorphosis. 😂

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  10. This way too many questions all at once. The video may have valuable questions that lead to a great self-helping point, but the video loses it's power because there is no break between the questions.

  11. I feel good about my self after listening to this an l know lm all ef the above an love 🤗❤️ l do have some pain that l need to deal with still. I trust me an the rest is out of my hands.

  12. Perhaps getting comfortable with yourself is one of the ways to overcome the issues.
    Line reality self with your ideal self.
    Be realistic with your self expectations which can also mean to be kind to yourself.
    + If you cannot face the truth within you, how will you manage things that involve other people and all that they bring into it?
    I can never understand why is it so tough for people to admit their wrongdoings and would rather avoid it, say something completely stupid, change topic anything but admitting and apologising.
    Let that ego go.
    Admitting frees up soooo much space inside where you will finally feel like you can breathe again.
    It’s not that scary to face yourself when you have thrown out ego and lowered your expectations of self.
    You cannot expect real from someone when you are not real with yourself and all that you (subconsciously perhaps) carry with you.

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