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5 MUST KNOW SIGNS of EMOTIONAL ABUSE – Mental Health talk w Kati Morton about neglect therapy stress


Today I want to talk with you, About the five signs of emotional abuse. So stay tuned. So like I said, Today I want to talk with you
about emotional abuse. I heard from many of you That this was a topic that you really
wanted me to dive deeper into. And the thing about emotional abuse. That I think is important to note. Is the fact that it’s really elusive. It can happen for a long period of time. Without us even knowing it’s going on. And it can damage us. Sometimes, and some therapists and
researchers believe. That it can be more damaging than Actual physical abuse. Because it can undermine what we really
think about ourselves. How we feel about ourselves. Our whole belief about who we are,
and what we’re going to do with our lives. And so it can leave these wounds. For years. Without us sometimes even recognising that
they are there. The first sign or symptom
of emotional abuse is: Are they degrading you? Ask yourself that question. Like I said, often times we don’t
notice these things are happening. The way to know if this is happening. Is, are they putting you down in
front of others? Do they use sarcasm as a way to hurt you? And then when you speak up and say, ‘Hey, that really hurt’ They tell you that you are
being too sensitive. Do they make jokes at your expense? Do they ever negate how you feel? Like when you tell them that certain
things have made you feel a certain way. They tell you that you are
completely wrong or off base. Because each of these little
things that can happen. Add up to a really poor confidence. It can really eat away at how
we feel about ourselves. And our confidence when we
walk into a room. Because we are being put down in front
of people all the time. And humiliated. The second sign or symptom
of emotional abuse is: When someone is dominating
or controlling your life. Now to that end. I don’t mean someone who is just
‘controlling’. I mean someone who belittles you. Who treats you like a child. Who may even control your spending. And they will, when you tell them
about plans that you have. And aspirations. They put them down. And make them seem so stupid and small. And they act like they are just
superior to you. And everything that you do. Is something that they have control over. You often feel. Sometimes I have patients
who have told me, That after time they even struggled To make very small decisions
without calling that person. Or getting a hold of that person. Because they’ve been under
their control for so long. They can forget how to even think
for themselves. The third sign or symptom
of emotional abuse is: Accusing and blaming. Does the person in your life, Struggle to laugh at themselves? They never apologise. That would be ridiculous
to ask them to do so. Often these people will blame all of
their problems onto other people. They are never to blame. Never. They have no short comings. And they tend to highlight
your short comings. And make you apologise when
you’ve done nothing wrong. These people just tend to feel
that they do everything best. And if anybody questions that. Or puts them down. Or says anything criticising to them. They freak out. They completely lose it. The fourth sign or symptom
of emotional abuse is: Neglect. We all know these people. They give us the cold shoulder. They stone wall us. They give us the ‘silent treatment’ when
we have done something bad. Or we might not even know what
we have done wrong. And that is most often the case
when it’s emotional abuse. And I find this to be most common, In parent child relationships. Where the parent will ice out the kid. They will not meet their needs. Basic needs. They will stay in a locked
bedroom in the back. They wont come out. They will withhold affection or attention. Or sometimes I’ve even had parents say They are going to show up for
a play or something. And they don’t. Because they have done something wrong. And so this is how they manage it. And know that this is not a normal
type of punishment. This isn’t an okay way to
treat a child. This isn’t a way to parent. This is emotional abuse. The fifth sign or symptom of
emotional abuse is: Emeshment or codependence. Now the way to know that is happening. Is when someone doesn’t treat you like
a whole other person. They treat you as an extension
of themselves. They may make choices for you. They may make choices for you as a
whole cohesive group. They may share information with you, that is completely going through
boundaries that you’ve set up. It may be a parent that over shares about
their relationship with your step father. Or your father. Or your mother. Or somebody. They are sharing their sexual
relationship, possibly. I’ve had parents do this to
clients of mine. And it can be really difficult to take. Also this person tends to not take into
consideration what you want or need. They’ll say, ‘I’m doing what’s best for you’. Now I know parents will do that sometimes. And I don’t want this to be confused with
parents saying, ‘I’m not going to buy you that
$200 pair of shoes.’ ‘Because I know what’s best for you. You’re
going to be fine with this $50 pair of shoes.’ That’s not what I’m talking about. What I’m talking about is you actually
have needs or wants. Like, ‘I really would like to take this
class.’ Or, ‘It’s really important for me, that I
go to this university.’ Or see this friend. And they are like, No no. I know what’s best for you and you are
going to hang out with me all day. We’re going to do things together,
all day long. And these people have no boundaries
for like a parent child relationship. Or a friend to friend relationship. They tend to not see any seperation. They treat you as if you’re them. And you are one. And it can be really unhealthy. And really difficult for us to get out of
these relationships. Because it’s so palpable. They’re everywhere. They are in all of our business. And these people can even share our
business with other people. Because they feel it’s okay. Without going through us and making
sure we’re okay with it. They can share personal information with
others because, you know, We’re the same. So I figured since I thought it was
okay, you’d think it’s okay. Right. So there is no division. Now I hope this helps clear it up. I tried to break this down into sections, Because emotional abuse is this huge vast
bucket of things that can happen to us. And if you are worried. Or you think that this has happened to you. The most important thing you can do,
if you are under 18. Is speak up about it. Because emotional abuse is not something
that you have to tolerate. And it’s something that is reportable. I’m a mandated reporter
for things like this. Because, especially under the neglect. And the blaming and the shaming. And the enmeshment. The unhealthy relationships that parents
can have with their children. Can be detrimental to us in the future. So the sooner you speak up and
get support, the better. Now if you are a survivor of this. I hope that you are seeking therapy. And you are getting your own support
for this. Because we can overcome it. This doesn’t define who we are. Because this has happened to us. That doesn’t mean that our whole world is
sucked into it. And that we’ll do this to other people. Or we’ll only be in abusive relationships. We can get through it. The more we talk about it. The more honest we are about it. And talking about the details. And how hurtful things were for us. The faster we will over come it. I hope that you found this helpful. Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel. I put out videos five days a week. And you don’t want to miss them. Right. And as always. Leave your comments below. Let me know what you liked, didn’t like. Things that you want me to
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100 thoughts on “5 MUST KNOW SIGNS of EMOTIONAL ABUSE – Mental Health talk w Kati Morton about neglect therapy stress

  1. when they emotionally abuse you but then make you feel horible for thinking those things about them and make you feel like you can't speak up skeet seet

  2. An old bf of mine had BPD and became emotionally abusive. The effects of this abusive to the victim can outlast the length of the relationship itself after you've separated.

  3. I’m really questioning can emotional abuse be harder then a person with a disability over a person without disability.

  4. my mom ticks all five . lol !
    no wonder i'm anxious avoidant slipping into codependence occasionally.

    last week she just casually picked up a weed from the leafy veggies and said, 'ain't this the same weed you have planted into flower pot outdoors ? ' my !! wasn't i just pissed off. 😂
    she had been doing it all the time, putting me down. what i do is never enough and there's always sth lacking or sone way to do it better which she knows and i don't. and i hadn't even noticed its effects earlier, how it corrodes my confidence andd how i try to perfect expecting her validation. all these this happening in subconscious level . luckily for me, i bumped so hard in my path that i've begun to search and find. otherwise i'd live and die not even knowing what was up.

    i have no grudge at her. none. i used to have few months back. but then i've found she is what she is because of her upbringing and temperament. she is so unaware of the whole dynamic. and she is committed to the family and loves us, has put up with a lot of hardship to keep us going. she does all this out of love ! that's funny though what she intends to and how things actually play out.😏

  5. You have me in tears watching this. I've always suspected emotional abuse from my parents. They would tell me I was a bad girl and ground me. I was 20 and had a curfew of 10p.m. I finally moved out my last 3 years of college for my Masters. But, was very secluded. I was so afraid of getting in trouble or my dad stopping by unannounced. I graduated began working and was most successful until I became mysterious I'll. I was on FMLA. At the top of my career. They chose to end my contract. At the time there wasn't Obamacare so I couldn't get insurance due to prior conditions. And now every day is worse and worse with my parents controlling me. They actually want me to move out of my home and in with them so they can get a small condo where my brothers live. I dont know what they tell my brothers but they dont even speak to me. They constantly tell me I'm lazy, old and I'll never get married. I use a Walker. I dont think that's lazy. And my ex fiance met someone online and married her on our wedding day. My dad blames me! No empathy what so ever. It's taken me about 6 single years to realize it's them emotional hurting me and I'm always trying to make peace. Now what am I supposed to do with that? If I have to move with them. They will commit me. Thanks for your videos they are very helpful.

  6. I was 37 when my life finally collapsed into the deep dark hole. I was diagnosed with BPD, GAD, C-PTSD, Menieres Disease and Major Clinical Depression. I lost part of my hearing and my work as a trumpet teacher. All in 2 months. I started self harming although I had never heard of it before but realised I had been harming in one way or another all my life. I am harm free 14 months now. Just stopped, cold turkey. There is so little help and advice out there for us oldies, I have been quite isolated in all this.

  7. I don't know but I find that a lot of what is considered emotional abuse is actually verbal abuse (insulting). My experience of emotional abuse is a lot different. It was associated with the tactics of a sexual predator, who once he has created a relationship of trust and dependance, will lock you into the relationship emotionally. This he did by use of NO offensive words, insults or degradation; if anything, it was the opposite. His emotional abuse consisted of forcing me to talk with him about our relationship, when I confronted him with disapproval. He would go on and on about how much he cared for me and loved me. He had several other tactics, like the silent treatment, blaming me for abusing him, always gearing the conversation according to his way of thinking, or playing the victim of a lifetime of misery and abuse so I would feel sorry for him. All of this kept me in an emotional turmoil, and guess who was there to help me? Him!

  8. degraded.you .putting you down in front of others… neglect your emotions… dominating your life…. accusing… never apologize… make you apologize when you have done nothing wrong …silent treatment…. O my God..
    Why me ….why?

    ..
    .

  9. 1. Yeah that is happening
    2. Absolutely
    3.she never apologizes
    4. If she’s not yelling at me then yeah
    5.she does force her self on me sometimes

    Darn

  10. I noticed when I get hurt I shut down so I am not able to talk to the person that I feel hurt by. I do not mean to give the silent treatment but I just don´t know how to express how I feel and feel so upset that I also do not want to talk to them. Has anyone experienced this and resolved it?

  11. The victim card for I wanna blame everyone else for my issues.
    I've been through each of these things, and I had to get stronger and realise that I needed to be stronger, so stop blaming them. It's my fault I waited so long, and it's my fault I didnt leave, and it's my fault I choose to stay inside.

  12. I'm so confused so I need to know am I being emotionally abused? My dad says hurtful things like girls are their dads property and he yells and sometimes curses when he can't get his way or tells us that God is going to hurt or destroy us when I told him about it he just acted like I was the one who was wrong. I don't care who answers this just please clear this question up for me I'm 18 and I've been struggling with this for a while I've been told that I'm just rebellious is that true I just don't know.

  13. Does anybody have any advice for this? I am a male 15 year old freshmen in High school and i am not even allowed to have my iPhone in my room when i sleep not to mention my freaking bed time that i have had since 6th grade so i go to bed at 9:30pm when all my friends are responsible and turn there electronics off on there own and can stay up as late as they want just as long as they get a reasonable amount of sleep. But i am that one kid who try's there best in school with all the shit they have going on in their lives and my parents monitor my iPhone and have parental controls on it with screen time that shuts down when it is time for bed. I am a good graded student in school and my grades range from B to A+. I have been pleading my parents for years to let me a be a responsible teenager but every time they get all in my face and say "wE aRE dOiNg wHaTs bEsT fOr yOU" wich makes me so pissed off because they never under stood how i felt until this got so bad we had to go to family therapy about it because i got depressed because they never gave me any privileges. so fucked up! i love my parents and everything but this is getting to annoying and too serous. I listen to all their silly rules and i get no responsibility and privileges out of it!!

  14. Yes right someone is dominating and controling my life by abusing and that is also without reason .what legal action can I take to put him behind prison

  15. I'm not sure I agree with your remarks about being Clean Shaven. I think a more accurate remark should be well-groomed.

  16. "Don't talk back." "You're lipping off." "Don't you dare say no to me." Translated: How dare you have an opinion, feeling, or an identity that challenges me. Stop being.

  17. The affect this had on me was just isolating myself for like 10 hours straight
    Sadly, this is because of my parents, also i cried for 10 hours straight and now everything hurts 😐 all because i can't tell if it was emotional abuse,
    R.i.p emotions ._.

  18. Emotional and verbal abuse is so bad. My sister is both. for a long period in my life my sister was my biggest fear. sometimes i WISHED she would hit me so i can tell my mom “hey, this is serious. it’s no longer just her personality. she’s hurting me” because that’s what i was told that it was “just her personality.” my fear of her still lingers to this day although i’ve gotten better at standing up for myself. she’s most of the reason for me being suicidal and me self harming in the past. unfortunately, she continues to be some of the reason for me relapsing after two years clean. luckily i haven’t gone too far but i’m trying my best. i wish i grew up with a better sister.

  19. it’s so hard. because it’s my dad! i love him! i have to! but like if he wasn’t my dad i would despise him. seriously i had a friend over and you could hear him screaming at my mom. i quietly murmured “sorry i don’t really like him”
    it’s hard to say the truth. i don’t like my dad. he screams at me, hits me, scares me. but i can’t say that. it has to be normal. that’s the only way

  20. it’s so hard. because he’s my *dad*. i have to love him. and sometimes he’s nice. sometimes he not. sometimes he’s loving. sometimes he’s scary. sometimes he’s caring. sometimes he’s abusive.
    it’s so hard. and i don’t know what’s normal anymore

  21. Two back surgeries and cut short of a career really hit hard but the seed was the narcissistic upbringing that would get so bad at times you broke down and eventually you learned to be better at it because you were tired of always being wrong it made your soul hard to where you could not be hurt on the outside but you're always being destroyed on the inside

  22. When I got older I remember saying I could hand you a winning lottery ticket and you would bitch that I handed it to you wrong. But then realize the only thing I wanted in life I could never have not because I didn't deserve it but for that person to give it ment I wasn't the yo yo on a string. Just wanted to be accepted appreciated or have unconditional love. But it always had to be earned day after day. And every night you went to bed either thinking I'm not good enough or will tomorrow be the day. But as a kid you got to the point of fearing it continuing because you never got it for something the day before and always had nightmares but that's a whole different animal and this isn't therapy unless of course you send me a bill or I like the couch in your office and become a regular but it was always a place I could talk.

  23. I almost have all those treatments. I grew up with those things. I can't speak up to my mom because she had diabetes type 2 which is makes me feel bad to do it. And I didn't feel any support from other members of my family. After my dad passed away 8 years ago it become worse. Am I on dangerous condition? Btw I'm 22

  24. is being forced into situations with a toxic person a form of emotional abuse? like, when A is perfectly well aware that B is upsetting you, but refuses to acknowledge it or let you speak about it? i feel like doing that for 15 years is probably SOME form of abuse. i guess i lean towards emotional because it made me unwilling or unable to talk about anything that wasnt public knowledge.

  25. I lived in an emotional and fiscal abusive family. If you bring any idea or are too cheerful you are wrong. I have the nickname of The Exaggerate or The Clown.
    In my almost 20 years of relationship with my now husband, I realise that we were emotional abusing each other. We love each other so much. I know we are always in disposition to improve.
    ANY ADVICE FOR COUPLES?

  26. Very important question I got for ya…mustn't we always be careful to keep a distinction between "emotional abuse" v. People simply losing their temper, even if it happens repeatedly? I'm afraid the phrase "abuse" can be abused too and become slanderous.

  27. can I add pays me after he yells in my face and lashes out along to the list? money and sorry mean nothing to me anymore

  28. This sounds like my someone I work with.
    I’m dealing with it by secretly recording her and gathering evidence so I can sue her very soon.
    Hopefully this teaches her a lesson

  29. Feeling guilty for watching this. I appreciate everything my foster parents are doing but they are just so hurtful and abusive.
    Soooo how do i tell them that i would like to see a therapist because of my struggles???? Everything is so messed up.

  30. These things got blown out of proportion when I was 18 and moved back in with my parents because I developed a complex physical medical condition. So basically as long as I'm dependent on them for anything, they're superior and have more value, or because they help me with medical things I can't question anything else or ask for respect. I'm not working full-time (or in a job they think counts as "hard work") so I live a life free of stress and just a bum. I completely succumbed to this mentality too, and I assumed indeed mental things don't count unless the people around you decide they count. There's no consideration for having different sets of challenges in life and different ways of processing. My relatives really echo the "I work hard, so if I don't think you work as hard as me, you don't count" mindset (they all come from their own abusive background, and it's probably mostly their parents' voices in their heads). Talking about anything just leaves you open for belittlement and mockery, which eventually became triggering. These things were always in the family, but having a physical illness really catalyzed things to a point that I could see that out "normal" was really wrong, and very hard to escape.

  31. Emotional abuse can go unnoticed by therapists. You don't realize it's something wrong. You think there is nothing wrong until someone points out the truth.

  32. Number 3 all day, but she mad it doesn't work on me anymore. Advice to people who struggle with emotionally abusive partners, or family members…be smart, save up your money, and go away. Once you break that everyday contact, they no longer have control over everything you do. You can get up and go to the bathroom without asking for permission or making an announcement. You can also go out and do something without that person filing a missing person's report every time you go to the movies.

    You can't change others and if they don't want to listen, then you've done all you can. Don't blame yourself, know who you are dealing with and move forward with YOUR life. You deserve to live out of confinement and breath without asking to breathe. It does get better! It does, I promise you. Be strong and stay 100% you.

    I love you very much and so should you,

    Happiness and love

  33. So, let’s say you are an emotionally abusive person without realising it. What steps would you recommend them to take with regards to mending the relationship?

  34. I wish I could find a therapist who would take me seriously. I have suffered my whole life (and still am) from an emotionally abusive, gaslighting narcissistic mother and a spineless father and even though I know that that ‘s the case (in part because of your videos) my current therapist refuses to address it. For example, after having been misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder and narcissistic personality disorder I finally got a diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder (which is a common misdiagnosis). My mother’s reaction was not one of compassion or even interest but literally “I don’t understand how you could be such a failure. I have always thought of myself as having a very healthy womb and you even got to stay an extra 3 weeks.” (I was born 3 weeks late, a fact which she never lets me forget because it forced my parents to change their plans to move to a new town by a few weeks).

  35. To be honest my mom did abuse me emotionally by telling me. "I´m ashamed to admit you are my son" And the reason was I took stuffed animals at school

  36. I never realized how serious this form of abuse was when I was younger. I only ever recognized what it had cost me after I was over 18. If your young and not sure if things are really "that bad" or your questioning if what happened was "okay" or "wrong". Trust me its better to speak up and talk to a trusted adult. If they don't help or take things seriously keep trying to find someone who will. Talk to your doctor, your teacher, a school counselor, your therapist, any safe adult that may be able to help. I promise someone will and things will improve if you can be strong and speak up. I wish I had, please don't let my story be yours.

  37. Emotional abuse is not only worse than physical abuse . People who are emotionally abused HURT THEMSELVES.
    The biggest problem with people talking about the difference between physical and emotional abuse .
    It is called the pissing contest and it may not be you it is most likely them whom have been groomed to invalidate themselves.
    They say that my childhood is in the top most horrific childhoods. The physical abuse is unimaginable to most people plus you will traumatize these people by telling them.
    How do you get validated and/or helped when the person you just poured your heart out too needs a trauma therapist because of what you told them that they could never imagine in their worst nightmares .
    Now think of a person who has been groomed to invalidate themselves and you just traumatize the hell out of them . They can no longer even think about what they feel because they are now overwhelmed by what you said.
    When I am talking to people who have been emotionally abuse the first thing that tell them is emotionally abused people hurt themselves.
    The only difference between you and me is that I did not have to think of ways of hurting myself.
    Any person who has been horrifically physically abused will tell any person who has been emotionally abused their condition causes much more suffering than the physical abuse does .

    Never put physical abuse on a pedestal we all suffer horrific emotional abuse who use pain to feel numb .
    Put emotional abuse on the pedestal physical abuse is a symptom of emotional abuse . You are physically abused to ensure that you are not blocking out the emotional abuse .
    It’s about control and keeping you from success because they believe that people will think badly of them if you succeed .
    I am sixty years old and my mother will inject in the middle of my sentence and finish it. Then argue with me about what I feel and think .
    If I told someone that I love apples 🍎 my mother would instantly cut in and say no you don’t you love oranges 🍊 when I hate them.
    I am not kidding you my mother tells me today what I think and believe is not true.
    My parents told the police that I was wasted out of my mind on LSD and I did not smoke weed .
    What that means is that in the 70s LSD was overwhelmingly powerful the out of body experience that many never came back from . Not a chance would anyone take LSD the first time they got high . The police New that I was not wasted on drugs after their cop was nearly killed because he pulled a gun and told me that he was going to blow my head off he looked like a junky who was Jonesing . The senior officer of the police station interviewed me because he wanted to know what were my parents thinking and the answer is control they believe that you will believe them. Regardless of reality.

    She would like to tell me what I think and feel so she can gossip about it.
    I went no contact for two years so I can figure out who I am and what I feel without their constant interference kicking my feet out from under me and telling me that I tripped over my own two feet.
    I have The highest IQ in my family I suffered the worst physical and emotional abuse from my parents than my brothers and sisters did because I was way more intelligent than they were .
    I was the scape goat my mother is a covert narcissist who engages in gaslighting me every time I speak . If I tell my parents that I have an Objective . I might as well be tell them to stop me and make sure I fail . My father was a sociopath who was sober 15 years before understanding that you have a motions and feelings . Who knew?
    He never meant to be the horrific jerk that he was in spite of being an addict he believed that his thinking was the only thinking that every person should have.
    And that is called insanity . He did not see right in front of his face. The thing that I hated as a child is that no matter how horrific my parents were in public they had not one clue as to what people are thinking.
    Plus when my friends parents would tell me that my kid can no longer play at your house .
    The New DSM-5 is trying to not recognize complex posttraumatic stress disorder.
    They only wish to acknowledge post traumatic stress disorder as a mental illness and all inclusive . Complex posttraumatic stress disorder is a complex illness and these doctors denying this is negligence on their part . My life is not defined as PTSD and the reason is that it is not. I have CPTSD what that means is that you can never define what I suffer from because you wish to believe that I do not exist and you people have never been right yet . It is a fact that I will never know what the trauma in my nervous system is about because your nervous system has no logic . The trauma that I suffer can never be defined and or discovered at all not possible because the memory for that trauma is complex .
    No therapist who is trained in therapy with people who suffer posttraumatic stress disorder is not qualified with people who suffer complex posttraumatic stress disorder because you were never taught . And you will tell your clients that they do not suffer from CPTSD because it does not exist. Meaning I am screwed because of your lack of knowledge again.
    My trauma therapist had a trauma therapist that she would visit right after every appointment with me .
    Are you Stupid the DSM-5 is wrong if you are in the business of helping people you need the training or you can not help and that should be your only Objective if you call yourself a professional .

    The police locked down my Elementary school inside and out no one under any circumstance is to leave the room that they are in this included the office in the staff room that were cleared and forced into the gym . I was told to go to the office all of this was so the police could speak with me .
    My parents did not believe that this happened to me because it happened to them .
    The police just took this pure evil man to the boarder they had my file and new everything about what this evil sick Freak did to me . The American authorities assured the police that this individual will never feel the sun on his body again that he will be confined to the basement at the prison for the rest of his life . The only way that he will leave that basement is after they zip up the body bag .
    My parents were horrific parents when it came to keeping me safe.
    They were always the victim even when I was buried alive .

  38. The worst part about abuse and neglect, and the effects of it, is how people treat you and talk about you, like 'what's wrong with that person?', or 'they're weird'. Since they never saw/experienced the things that fucked you up inside, and so it must be your own fault for being that way… It really sets one up for failure in this society, and dealing with 'normal' people.

  39. This is my step father and it's kinda been really hard to love myself like so many times I get to a good place then it's difficult to fully embrace and love myself because I have nothing but doubt about who I am and the choices I make…

  40. Sadly I learnt from an early age, just because they created you, doesn't mean they would ever have been '' ready ''

  41. I live with my best friend and her girlfriend (weird living situation, but I'm a poor student in a new town) and over the months the way the girlfriend treats my friend has started to concern me. She is extremely negative. Like I have rarely see this woman smile or give a compliment to anyone. She has 0 friends because she generally likes nobody. And basically all she says is negative observations or covert insults to my friend and even me. She seems to think everything romantic, kind, affectionate is dumb and pathetic. If we watch a movie she'll laugh at my friend for crying. She'll make fun of the clothes she wears, how she acts, her interests. Quite sad to see, because my friend still adores her. My friend has been in abusive relationships before, maybe this is another one. I have no doubt this girlfriend loves my friend under all that toxic, defensive rudeness. I think she has an overwhelming fear of seeming soft or feminine. But at the same time it must hurt my friend so much. She has started to gain a lot of weight and lost many friends and hobbies.

  42. my step-dad used to do this and sometimes physical abuse. when i told him i'd call the cops, he said they'd be on his side.

  43. you know one of those type of emotional abuse where they treat you like shit and then a whole hour later they a different person and tryna be nice to you to make you get over what they did to you just barely

  44. I’m a teen my parent day I can’t hide secrets and they always wanna go threw my phone thinking I’m hiding somthing I can’t even have apps bacause they accuse me of things I don’t do I have no say in anything they say mean things it’s a long story

  45. I’ve been degraded, controlled, neglected, and blamed/accused by some of my “friends”. It was awful. It only lasted a few months and luckily I got out of the situation, I believe I only got out by moving home

  46. When you grow up and realize that you were probably emotionally abused most of your life but you can’t do anything about it because no one would believe you because your abuser is ‘so nice’

  47. My mom made me say sorry when she discovered I had cut myself but never said sorry for driving me to the point where I felt that it was necessary to self harm 😶

  48. I was emotionally abused by a neglectful, absent father who is speculated to have BPD but is undiagnosed because he doesn't go to therapy and now suffers from depression due to divorce and his quickly deteriorating health, and an overly-protective, extremely narcissistic helicopter-mom with bipolar disorder. At the same time, they two were still married and fought literally every day.
    That was… Quite a ride.

  49. Yes I know this problem but it’s impossible to fix, my don’t care about me as a person anymore they put bad ideas in my head, Kate can you read my mind have you met my parents

  50. Can you do emotional and even physical aggression when an adolescent/young adult is the aggressor ? Please? There is not enough research on child to parent violence

  51. This video helped me calm down when I was crying. It's just that my mom yell at me and calls me names. She blame me for everything and say that I ruined her life. And well this video really helped.

  52. I've been homeschooled since 2nd grade. I thought it would be great. Back in 6th grade (I'm in 11th grade now) I couldn't focus on anything. The way I'd have to teach myself is on my own. My parents wouldn't check my school work or grade it, there fore I didn't know what I was doing wrong. I'd mark off things I didn't understand. I recently got into a musical, my only social outlet. Musical theatre is my only social outlet to this day. When they found out that I wasnt learning anything, they grounded me, scolded me, and took me out of the show. They told me how I let down every one in the show and the directors. I felt so terrible, so terrible that I started cutting myself. They were the reason i started self harm. Skip to 9th grade, I tell them that I've self harmed myself. They immediately say that they'll take down my door and never let me take a shower by myself if I cut myself again. I got so scared that I thought of killing myself. Whenever I get in trouble for anything, theatre is the first thing to go. It's the only thing I have, and they know that. I'm stuck at home 24/7, they don't help me with school at all so I'm taking school into my own hands. I'm going to college early and trying to learn as much as I can to get out of this house. I'm sure they love me and they're doing what they think is right but they have no clue how much it emotionally effects me. Years of emotional abuse. Even when I was 7 years old and I'd make paper and cardboard crafts for my toys, they'd call it garbage and tell me to throw it away. They'd black bag my room if it got too messy (black bagging is where they take everything that's laying around, throw it in a black bag, and throw it away) many of my friends tell me to call someone but when I asked my therapist and my parents if calling CPS would be a good idea, they said no. So I'm just gonna push through these final 2 years and hopefully don't have more emotional damage. I'm sorry for this long comment, with strict parents and being home 24/7 it's hard to reach out to people and be able to vent. I only see my therapist once a month.

    Thank you for reading this, it means a lot to me

  53. I'm 31, disabled and on benefits (due to mental health issues directly caused by childhood abuse that extended into adulthood and never really stopped) and still to this day stuck living with my father who has and continues to do every single thing she listed here….only way he hasn't abused me is sexually. At least there's that. I've tried everything including running away and trying to live on my own (gvt doesn't give enough to sustain that) and even living on the street and in homeless shelters, but domestic violence shelters never take me because the person doing it is my father rather than someone I'm having sex with. Go figure… I often feel suicidal and just hopeless and really depressed and have been diagnosed with literally over a dozen different mental health conditions since age 13, including DID, PTSD, and many others. This prick even insults and abuses my other personalities, when they're the only ones that even truly love and care for me unlike him. I don't even truly hate him but know he won't stop. Even today at our group therapy (mandatory or he wouldn't go) at the methadone clinic we both go to (long story there for sure) he made an ass of himself in front of everyone and stormed out and everyone could see he was being an angry abusive jerk for no reason and I knew he would punish me for it later somehow and did, lost it in the supermarket at me suddenly telling me I "ruined everything", etc…He blames me for everything. Sometimes I think the only escape is death since I've tried everything else, even living in fucking CHINA (where I ended up literally being made a slave; I was preyed on at the homeless shelter too because I probably just don't have any goddamn sense by now)…. I know there's no help out there for me…he even controls all my money since he insisted on being my representative payee…which he finds ways to blame me for too of course. It's all such a sick fucking joke. Sorry I posted this here, I hope I don't get in trouble for it or something and that he doesn't see it or that people aren't mean about it but I just had to rant.

  54. When my parents tell at me and I cry they tell me to shut up and stop "fake crying" but then when I don't show emotion because I don't want to get yelled at more they call me a sociopath. I'm not a sociopath.

  55. my older sister and i, (ages 14 and 16) have been physically neglected and emotionally neglected our whole lives. we're both very smart (not to brag), we do really well in school, i literally get straight a's in most of my subjects, especially English and maths, i ALWAYS get full marks, i do my homework all the time, all n all i'm an extremely good child (so is my sister) but my parents wont stop treating us like we're stupid, i always tell them facts about stuff, and get involved in adult conversations, but they call me fucking dumb. I've been dealing with bpd (borderline personality disorder) and anxiety for almost 5 years, but they wont take me to therapists, or do anything about it. they tell me that there's nothing wrong with me and that it will go away, and tell me to pray and read quran. BTW my sis and i, are both atheists, and we're both part of the LGBTQ+ community, but they have NO clue about it, they say that atheists and LGBTQ+ members have to be thrown off buildings, or burnt alive ect. that alone makes me cry, the other thing is, we're not allowed to have phones, not allowed to have hobbies (i used to play violin and do swimming) but they made me quit. ALSO they NEVER buy us clothes, shoes, or any of our needs, (skincare products, nail products, hair products,) HELL they wont even let us buy TAMPONS because We'Re noT MArrieD (aka we're virgins). I also refuse to wear hijab because I DONT WANT TO (no shit im atheist) and they keep on trying to force it on me (calling me a slut). IM NOT even allowed to tweeze my brows, dye my hair, REMOVE MY FUCKING MUSTACHE because im not marRIED. And i also tell them i want to be a cop or a detective or an FBI agent but THEY REFUSE because im a FEMalE And nOT A maLE. I honestly cant put up with their bullshit any FUCKING more. I keep on wanting to kill myself then telling myself its the wrong thing to do, but honestly, i dont think theres wrong or right.
    Thank you SO much for reading if u made it this far, please help me? tell me what to do pleasee.
    BTW i live in iraq atm, ive lived in the UK for few years (2013-2018).

    also i dont wanna be annoying but can u like? so ppl can find my comment and give me advice or tell me their story so i wont feel alone.

  56. The sign 1 happening to me and sign 3 heppning to me and its even when im big now…. 4 is actually happened sometimes and my mother hurt me too much that its hurts so much i can take it and i actually hit her because she can't stop and she yalling at me day and night i cant take it anymore. I hope someone could help me

  57. Hi I have suffered from being jealous and envious around the women my age. And I stopped going to social events where I felt small and like a child around them. My family belited me when I was young and done my clothes shopping and controlled my life. And controlled my money and spending. I realised I have panic attacks, nightmares, bad dreams and feel sweaty and hyperventilating and flashbacks. When I was around them. As I was mollicoddled by my family as a child. And they weren't. Now in my adulthood I can't stop reliving my childhood as I was mollicoddled and my family didn't have any belief that I can do anything and they use to call me horrible names associated with my health. And my family say I can't do things for myself. And I avoid places and the women my age that bring on memories and flashbacks and nightmares and trembling. And my family didn't let me grow up. And every time I go to a social event where the women my age are I end up having a panic attack at nights after the event when I am a sleep

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